Ego Illusion or soul consciousness
Since the origins of time the eternal choice for everyone; who finds himself in incarnation. Is either to enjoy the illusion of what you see outside yourself; which is an ego focus. Or face the truth within the self; which is a soul focus? Therefore every relationship breakup presents a choice with an opportunity. Which is to either grab another partner without reflection; as quickly as possible to continue the illusion. Or perhaps to face the truth within the self. To see how you have created the former unbalanced relationship; from your point of view in the first place.
It is completely irrelevant how many times that you experience relationship breakup. Same choice is always presented; which is to continue with the illusion or to face the truth. It is only by facing the truth within that you will ever be set free from the wheel of rebirth. How many relationships during how many incarnations will you experience; before you give up and sit still to face the truth within yourself? So then how does the ego keep the entity so enthralled in illusion?
Ego creates psychic barriers of protection; which form a psychic bubble of imprisonment. So here is a timeless message for all those people; who think that simply by changing the faces that they look at changes anything at all?
Universal Relationship Commitment
Needs to be for every individual to practice continuous self observation; in order to facilitate the facing of the truth within oneself. Anything less will lead to relationship failure. As the limitations within the self not faced. Accordingly will be projected onto another by default. In particular anyone contemplating and committing to marriage; would be wise to incorporate this clause into their wedding vows. If they are very wise?
Psychic barriers created by ego
Every man with an ego is in effect carrying a heavy cage around himself; the psychic barriers of protection. In effect a psychic bubble in which he is imprisoned. Meets a free or soul man; who is absent of any uncontrolled ego. He is free from any burden or distortion of perception. Free man will say to the ego man here is the key of release; that will set you free from your prison. To which the ego man will then say to the free man “do not tell me what to do”.
He then goes merrily on his way continuing to carry his burden; which is in effect a failure to connect in his consciousness as a unity. The duality of what he thinks he is doing with what he is actually doing. He is so in love with his own ego as it gives him a sense of purpose in life. Even though this path is also the one of pain and suffering experience. This of course is all total illusion. So what is the moral of this story? Every unconscious individual needs to first become aware that they are in fact living within a prison and then seek to find the key of release to escape. After this point is reached. Then the rest becomes easy.
Remove psychic barriers for wholesome relationship
Only the complete removal of all psychic-barriers; allows you to form a complete wholesome relationship within your own self. Accordingly then also with anyone else from your perspective. Obviously this does not necessarily mean that others will have a wholesome peaceful relationship with you!
While the person in question sees another person outside their own self as the problem. Rather than accepting responsibility in their own self in the first place. Well the problem will never ever be solved this way. It is only ever about you and never about anyone else. Which is very sad but true. This pattern is usually referred to; as the energy state of being emotionally immature. All because you blame others for how you feel instead of accepting responsibility for your own emotions in the first place.
It is only the person who first puts up the psychic-barriers who can take them down again. Universally to everyone rather than specifically to any particular individual. While an individual remains blocked in their soul all psychological barriers will remain in place. Only soul light provides the capability to illuminate the mind. Thereby facilitating psychic insights; which is absolutely essential in gaining the ability to live a conscious life.
Emotional sentimentality has its origins from the ego, which is to give loving emotions with a conditional aspect. When you do what I like then I will love you. However if you do not do what I like then unfortunately I will not love you anymore. Spiritual love has its origins from the soul. Which is to give loving emotions; that are totally unconditional in nature. You may do as you choose in free will and I will love you anyway. Its nature is totally and completely unconditional.
An important aspect of soul love; is giving the influence that is needed. Unfortunately it is not always what is wanted. To enable an evolution from ego consciousness into soul consciousness; which is to become totally free. From the spiritual point of view it is not important; who you are in relationship with. Only that you face the truth about yourself with whomever you are with. In this way you will evolve spiritually under any conditions.
Source and solution is within the self
We all as individuals need to work it out for ourselves. No one can do it for us. Relationship trauma with emotional suffering is our greatest blessing; because this provides the crisis of opportunity. Which is a sudden influx of soul light a psychic insight; that enables the seeing of life in a wider context. When we all finally come to recognise. That the source and solution to every problem is within the self and will never ever be found outside yourself.
Perhaps we may all wonder what is the key of release? Insight meditation taken from its humble beginning with Anapana practice; taken to its final conclusion with enlightenment?